For many seniors, the mere thought of giving up the keys or limiting their driving provokes feelings of dependence, abandonment, and virtual imprisonment. Mature drivers may resent their children or others making decisions for them. It’s important to hear and understand the older driver’s concerns. You cannot help older drivers if you alienate them. Here are some more tips for communicating about this sensitive topic.

• Remember that most older drivers think of themselves as safe, in fact, safer than younger drivers.
• Don’t scold or lecture a loved one about giving up the keys. The more you alienate them, the less you can help.
• Show them you know how important driving is in their lives.
• Explain that you want them to stay safely behind the wheel for as long as possible. Their safety and the safety of others on the road is the number one objective.
• Be positive and supportive, not bossy.
• Remember, parents have played the role of decision-maker for a lifetime. Don’t expect them to comfortably accept a role reversal in which their child becomes the decision-maker.
• Assess the older driver’s behind-the-wheel skills as objectively as you can. Encourage the senior driver to take a self-assessment and visit a medical professional for a vision and driving-fitness check-up.
• Talk about strategies to correct specific driving weaknesses, overcome their fears, and set their mind at ease.
• Assessing an older driver’s abilities and one day making the decision to take away the keys is a decision that may involve many people. To overcome resistance, consider discussing the issue with the driver’s spouse, other family members, and health care professionals such as a doctor or driver rehabilitation specialist. Another credible voice may help in discussing these issues.
• Assure the senior driver of your continued love and support.

Still have questions about how to navigate this sensitive issue? Contact your local AAA club for more information.